From sexual intercourse to the escalation of

A few days ago, a woman wrote a letter described this experience. She said:

"As a woman, I admit that I need caressing, eager to be touched, hugged, kissed, but my request only in this way, do not want to see further development. To my husband often misunderstood my meaning, I see a warm That it thought that I would like to Guoxingshenghuo, so he launched his first up.

This has often will result in 'Jianzaixianshang, to the' situation, I only Shunshuituizhou. Whenever Wanshi sex life, her husband will feel very proud, I think that is the responsibility of all to meet my request, my heart feel very sad, because my feelings were misunderstood. With this idea, I could not express themselves to the husband of love and of the requirements, nor do I know how to express it right. "

Between husband and wife in respect of the misunderstanding, there are many such cases. Physically and mentally normal men and women are eager to achieve through sexual contacts of the meet, but the sexual contact between men and women to achieve the objective, but have different requirements. Generally speaking, arouse sexual desire in men, the women's all caressing, are in a sexual intercourse with the advance of this goal. And women are different, their sexuality is excited passive, when the subject of men hugging and kissing, touching almost like behavior, feelings are only the beginning of the meet, in its desire not to arouse before, these have physical contact So that it can get a better feel, is not the result of sexual intercourse value.

From a psychological perspective, women have another "self-love psychology", that is, they want other people's love. Therefore, women often intentionally or unintentionally, to the men that their love for such needs. Women and those who do not understand the psychological characteristics of men, see this implied, often according to their own requirements to measure the other side, thought to the issue of their own signal, so the venture to upgrade will be repeated sexual contact, have taken place in the final Women psychologically prepared to accept no matter ─ ─ sexual intercourse.

This is a misunderstanding of a certain psychological and physiological factors, to some extent can be said with certainty. However, although we recognize this inevitability, in theory, but in practice also think that this misunderstanding is not inevitable. This seems to human nature and rational contradictions, people act in accordance with nature is inevitable, but also from time to time to be rational constraints, this left the constraints, the nature of laissez-faire can only have negative consequences.

How to remove both men and women in the life of the misunderstanding

On this issue, it should be said that both men and women should be responsible, but the responsibility of men to be relatively larger. For men, the most important thing is to eliminate "sexual intercourse is" such a misconception. Whether it is "sex" or "sexual intercourse", both of which are sex-linked, but "Love" and "sexual intercourse" but are essentially different. Sex emphasis on psychological meet, not for the purpose of Jiaohe, and the emphasis on physical, sexual intercourse satisfaction of Jiaohe is its sole purpose. From the manifestations of view, sex is mainly from the brink of a sexual nature, such as the whisper sweet, gentle kiss, hug, and so on. And the performance of sexual intercourse for the genital mutilation of direct contact. Of course, in order to achieve this direct contact, often from the edge of the need for the start of the transition, but with the sex difference is that the purpose is very clear, that is, from the early mobilization of the woman's sexual excitement, to facilitate in Jiaohe.

In "Love, equivalent to sexual intercourse," the idea behind this, there are doubts the two men, one of its suspicions that men in general for their sexual capacity and the effectiveness of existing worried. They also know that many of the wives of some caressing, but they all consider themselves lost in this regard in the clumsy, if not in his wife's reaction was clear to see, feel that they are poor in this capacity, so instead simply to take direct The way to make up for their so-called deficiencies. The second of its suspicions that the men generally did not believe women can not just sexual intercourse. In this regard, they are committed "to the heart of man a woman's abdominal" problems. Men in the whole of life in the process of physical feelings, in its final stages of sexual intercourse with the most fierce. By contrast, prior to the feelings become insignificant. Men from their own experience starting, but also that women only through sexual intercourse to get the real sexual gratification, so often could not wait to upgrade to sexual contact, be that the only way to make their own ability to make their own liking.

To lift these suspicions trick is simple. To lift these doubts, men must understand some of the sexual psychology of women, women know the extent of the sexual demands are often just as much as sexual intercourse. At the same time, we should also know that women more often in sex (but not sexual intercourse) get a better feel, this is very different places with men. Many men said that in anticipating the women's psychological mystery, their sex life in it a little easier, as in the past do not need a reluctance.

From the women's side, the sex life of this type of misunderstanding, although they should not bear the main responsibility, but can not be a push over. Women in need caressing the issue that, we should think of itself imply that the meaning of this is very inaccurate, it is easy to cause misunderstandings men. Therefore, women must try to bring this result implied that some more, do not Linxi language interpretation and clarification. Even the men to figure out your after that, women must also pay attention to grasp the rhythm of sex and intensity, if not control, it is likely to in-depth sex with men in the first Yuhuo can not help but burn.

In this case who is also no wonder, from sex to sexual intercourse with the transition is a natural thing, if not controlled, the result can well be imagined. If the misunderstanding has caused, or the desire of men has escalated, as women should face the reality as well. In Weixin to accept her husband's sexual demands, many women have taken a low-key attitude, deliberately want to be aware of each other, or implied a psychological revenge: I do not Excitement, nor can you too Excitement.

In fact, the results do so without benefit of women themselves, only disadvantages, it will reduce the physical level of excitement, it will also result in psychological deformities. A long time, there are likely to develop into Xingleng Dan. As women, we must remember: your sexual feelings is the ability to build up, if maintained an upward trend, it will last more than a progress if there is a downward trend, even if only one or two, will be a step backward than a .